It is OK not to have a funeral. OK..I said it. Probably not what you thought a funeral director would say. People often don’t realize they have so many choices when it comes to death, rituals or funerals. But I would be amiss if I did not add these thoughts:
–A funeral is not necessarily for you, it is for the ones you leave behind.
While you’re alive, you certainly have the primary input into what you’d like to include in your funeral service. For most people these are the things for which they’d like to be remembered or what is important to them. But, keep in mind you won’t be there and your loved ones may need some other things other than what your wishes specify.
–A funeral or memorial can provide a time of closure.
–A funeral can provide an opportunity for reflection of the departed loved one’s life. There may be things that the living need to draw from that loved one’s life, things to be celebrated and things to memorialize.
–A funeral can be both a time of celebration and mourning. Both are necessary to move through the various stages of grief and healing, for those that are living.
Do I really need to have a Funeral?